Friday, January 11, 2013

Can You Imagine?


Sixteen hours of driving, one flat tire, some rutted roads and some paved roads brought us to Bolgatanga.  The last eight hours of our drive provided a landscape dotted with mud huts and what most people think of when they picture African life.  The land of Ghana became more desolate and simple the farther north we traveled.  After a very long drive, we arrived in Bolgatanga.  This town is located on the northern most border of Ghana and hosts one of the orphanages Feeding the Orphans supports. 

Our family has been blessed to spend the past few days with the children here.  And it has been wonderful.  The simplicity of life forces me to stop and reflect on the moments before me.  Walking out of the orphanage, I am greeted by pigs, donkeys, goats, and true African beauty.  Without internet access, I can't withdraw to the computer at night, and I think I've seen more of God because of it.  God has revealed Himself in the faces of the children, the majesty of the incredible stars overhead in the dark of night, the gratitude for simple gifts, the continual laughter, our boys blending in with the orphans as friendships develop, and the rising music of the praise songs of kids.  

As we walked to church on Sunday, each person in our family was holding the small hands of different children.  Braden carried a 2 Year old on his shoulders for part of the walk.  Weston held hands with Sweetie and Noah.  Reid had about four children walking with him.  It was one of those moments I wanted to capture in my mind forever.  Beautiful.  

We stepped along a dirt path for 20+ minutes in order to attend church.  The path was dotted with rocks and animal poop surrounded by mud huts and concrete structures intermingled.  People greeted us along the way in Frafra, the language here.  Our family, Paul, and Auntie Juliana toted 17 children to church walking in small packs down a long dirt trail.  

We arrived at church.  It was a large structure with open air concrete blocks providing a breeze during the service.  No air conditioning.  About 400 people huddled together on small shaky wooden benches for the duration of the two hour service.  Men, women, and children alike.  Women sat with babies strapped to their backs, but then nursed them openly if they were hungry.  The children sat attentively and quietly for the entire service.  They did not have coloring books or cars to entertain them.  Everyone was dressed in their Sunday best.  The colorful congregation looked magnificent in their traditional African fabric sewn into handmade dresses and shirts.  

The pastor encouraged everyone to rise and shine for Jesus.  He told them their lives should be a reflection of him.  He shared even is they had nothing to give, they could give their lives serving Him.  As he taught this, I wondered how many sitting in the seats really had nothing to give for the offering.  As the service drew to a close, I was given more understanding.  The church announces the previous week's offering at the end of the service.  Last week was Christmas Sunday, one of the largest offerings of the year happens on this day and the grand total of the church offering was just over $200 US or 400 cedis.  Each person in attendance had on average $.50 to place in the offering.  Fifty cents per person.  

On the walk home from church, so many thoughts came to me.  I looked down at the little hands in mine, and I was thankful Auntie Juliana brings them to church each Sunday.  She alone usually walks with the 17 children every week.  I thought about the fact that there were no cars in front of the church.  Every single person in attendance either walked or rode on a motorbike.  I realized how easy my travel to church has always been, and I've taken it for granted.  I've never really thought about how many travel to worship on Sundays throughout the world. 

I thought about the numerous mosques we passed on our drive to Bolgatanga.  The northern region here is covered with them, and, in comparison, there are very few churches competing for converts.  The Kingdom work to be done here is great.  Each mosque demands attention because, in many areas, the mosque is the nicest building.  Most are fairly large in size, freshly painted with a bright color, and appealing in architectural design.  Especially in comparison to mud huts and crude structures in the surrounding communities.  The Leaders of the Islamic faith are pouring their resources into Ghana providing mosques to draw people.

I thought about the nice, large, comfortable churches so prevalent in America and the stark contrast to the structures here where people gather to worship.  Honestly, it made my stomach hurt.  Is the Christian church willing to pour the same resources to build churches in countries where they are needed?  Is the Christian church willing to battle for souls on the mission field throughout the world?    

Auditorium seating, engineered multi-media equipment, theatrical lighting, multiple musical instruments with a special sound barrier created for the drums, and weekly bulletins are printed for every attendee every Sunday in most American Christian churches.  Most churches provide snacks for the children while hungry children here go for days without food.  Literally.  DAYS.  Yet, vast church resources are spent on keeping up the American church-goers comfortable - the newest and most updated buildings with the newest and most updated technology - snacks included.

I can't help but feel there is something dreadfully wrong with this picture.  There are many, MANY, who are going to spend an eternity in hell because they have never heard of Jesus.  While churches continue to focus on making their own facilities more "updated" and "comfortable," there are people here who would be thankful for a roof to gather under.

We recently witnessed a congregation move from worshipping under trees to worshipping   under an open-sided, but roofed, structure.  They were ecstatic.  The church couldn't afford contractors, so, for weeks, the congregation worked together to BUILD THIS CHURCH.  Men, women and children together.  Children carried water on their heads walking back and forth to the well  for hours so the concrete could be mixed.   It was a sight to behold.  Believers working side by side to build a church.

We are grateful to Community Bible Church for providing the funding for the roof.  It was a gift beyond measure to the people here.  The celebration service lasted for six hours and was filled with dancing, singing, and praising!  I'm not sure I've ever seen so much JOY in one place at one time!  Thank you CBC for roofing a place to worship and fellowship together!  This church structure is one of the only churches in this community that is 95% idol worshippers!  It is wonderful to see them have a place to gather.

I shared some of my thoughts with a missionary friend here yesterday.  She said, "It's easy to get angry at the American church when you live here.  You must guard your heart.  God is moving in America too."

And HE is.  So, I am guarding my heart.  The American church is alive.  I know it, but it's hard for me to see sometimes.  I live in a world of tattered clothing, scarce water, hungry children, and people using all of their meager resources to survive.  I live in a world where people still use their feet for transportation and children must do strenuous daily chores for the family to make it to the next day.  I live in a world where people do not have "kitchens" or "bathrooms."  This is a place where a family's house is referred to as the "room" for the family and all cooking, bathing, and releasing of bodily waste is done outside.  I live in a world where schools do not have books for the children, where churches do not use projectors, and plastic flip-flops are worn until holes are found under the heel.  I live in a world where orphaned children beam with bright-eyed faces at the simple pleasure of hearing someone say their name.  Say.  Their.  Name.

(This picture is of actual flip-flops worn by the children in the orphanage at Bolgatanga.  We are grateful for the new flip flops that were sent.  Thank you Griffins!  Funds we received to bless children here purchased the rest.  Please know all of the children now have new "slippers" to wear.)


My prayer continually over the past month is for God to help me make sense of this.  Two worlds.  Sorely different.  Yet, I continually wrestle through my understanding of scripture that says we are to help the poor, care for the orphan, give of our resources, and give of ourselves.  I believe One world should be helping the Other world - or, more understandably, the First World is called to be helping the Third World.  God's church is called to RISE UP.  Resources are greatly needed - finances, teaching, jobs, people, etc...

Please know I've been wrestling through so many things over the past month.  That's one reason you have not heard from me.

Christmas here was just another day.  Most people never receive gifts.  We gave gifts to a 28 year old single mother and she wept because she has not received a gift in such a long time.  Can you imagine?  We took this same woman to eat in a restaurant and she tells us it is the first time she has ever done so.  She saw the ocean for the first time in her life with us a few weeks ago yet she has lived her entire life less than 50 miles away from the coast.  She is 28 years old - first time eating at a restaurant, first time touching the ocean with her toes.  Can you imagine?  Children here are thrilled with a balloon.  They blow them up and UNTIE them so they can use them again.  Can you imagine?  Twelve and thirteen year old boys ask for one gift and their request is a matchbox car.  Can you imagine?  Villagers walk for miles to carry contaminated water which is used for drinking, bathing, washing, cooking.  Children battle worms and parasites because the water situation is so horrible in this village.  This is the only option for water.  Can you imagine?   While in Bolgatanga, there was a shortage on gasoline.  We drove to ten stations searching for gas as our tank sat below empty.  We were miles from the orphanage and were in a desperate situation for gas for our vehicle.  We ended up buying it out of a drum on the street and watched it being poured into our tank through a welded can made into a make-shift funnel.  Because no stations had it to sell, we were forced to pay the "street price" for the liquid gold to help our car make it back to the home.  We paid 12 cedis for one gallon of gas = 60 cedis for 5 gallons to make it home.  We sat at the mercy of untrustworthy men, but were forced to support their skyrocket price for a small amount of gasoline.  Supply and demand.  No gas available anywhere within 30 miles.  Can you imagine?

Can you imagine?  Really imagine?

We actually don't have to imagine because this is our life in Ghana.  This is what we experience.



It's a continual wrestling.  Two Worlds.  How can it be reconciled?

As I shared these thoughts with another friend of mine here, she said,
"Perhaps it isn't something to reconcile.  Perhaps is is something to change."

"Do you become a king because you re competing in cedar?
Did not your father eat and drink
And do justice and righteousness?
Then it was well with him.
He pled the cause of the afflicted and needy;
Then it was well.
Is not that what it means to know Me?"
Declares the LORD.
Jeremiah 22:15-16


  

Saturday, December 8, 2012

A Crazy but Wonderful Day

This blog is kind of like a journal for me.  I find this to be my place to "record" moments.  Although I posted this on Facebook, I wanted to remember this day forever.  If you didn't catch the post on FB, here is my crazy but wonderful day in a nutshell.

Many more Ghana moments today after waking up to a home without water. (We are catching rain water off the roof as I type this! Yes, God provided!) I just arrived home after nearly 7 hours in the car driving a total of 72 miles. No joke
! I had to drive to two different outdoor markets today for items I could find anywhere in the states. Anyway, I "nicked" two vehicles today as I wove our 4x4 through the market...one taxi and one semi! (So sorry Honey! Rebekah will tell you it wasn't my fault!) Because there wasn't any real damage to the other cars - and because I am a white woman - I kept going. I played real-life bumper cars today...with only a few bumps! THEN, I sat in traffic for more than 2 hours on the motorway witnessing a flatbed truck roll backwards into a semi! By this time I was a bit panicked because the boys had already been released from school and I could not reach Reid on the phone to pick them up. What could I do? After sitting still for such a long time beside a trotro crammed with 30+ hot, sweaty people sitting on top of each other, I decided to do a "random act of kindness" and purchase biscuits for all of them from the nearby hawker! What a way to spread Christmas cheer! Not only were the trotro riders happy, but the hawker who delivered them came to my window twice to thank me! $5 goes such a long way here for simple blessings! THEN I navigated through several enormous ditches full of muddy rain water listening to it lap the bottom of my door trying to make my way to get the boys. THEN the guy at the toll booth that I drive through everyday allowed me to pass for free because he was spreading Christmas cheer too! What a blessing! THEN I drove through the cows (in the picture) on the road to the school to finally retrieve the boys - over two hours late! (Thank you Stacy Omorefe and Autumn Buzzellfor taking care of them.) THEN my boys climbed in the car and I was so thankful God has given me such sweet blessings in our sons. THEN I turned on the four wheel drive to make it back to the main road picking up Gabriel on the way so he would not be walking in the rain and mud. THEN I said to myself, "Today is a day where it's been obvious I'm living in Ghana...and I wouldn't have it any other way! NOW I am finally home with my family listening to the rain and thankful it is filling the buckets so we will have water to bathe with. I'm reminded of all of the simple blessings God pours out on my life. What a great God we serve! Lord, thank you for a crazy but wonderful day!

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

One Man's Trash Is Another Man's...

Currently we are busy preparing for Christmas.  However, it's not what you think.

We are making preparations to make December 25th a blessed day for many here in country.  People in the US have been collecting gifts to share with the needy here.  Friends and family have been collecting some very nice things to send over and give to people here.  People at home have been thinking of the deprived people here in Ghana as they have been making their own Christmas plans.  They have chosen to give to the people here with their giving.  Thank you!!  We are so excited!!  (Thank you Tate Family, Hannah Rader, Thursday Connection Kids, Laura Lamb, Janet Franklin, Pleasant Hill Church and Ladies Bible Study, and, of course, Oleary family!  Nothing would happen here without each of you!  Thank you!)

This Christmas will be very different for us.  We will not even be at home Christmas Day.  We will have the honor of giving our lives away to the people here.  Our Christmas season will consist of delivering food for FTO sponsored families, making some needed repairs to homes, visiting orphanages to love on the fatherless, hosting an event for boys (most of whom are fatherless) and helping with an MLI Outreach for four days in a local deprived fishing community of 2000 people.

Believe it or not, there are many preparations for things like this - planning, shopping, communicating, etc...  (You should know that the shopping for most of this isn't done in a grocery store or a mall, but in an outdoor market.)  Today we began the daunting task of sorting though clothing for the outreach.  It is our hope that each person will receive one new piece of clothing.   The clothes we sorted today were donated a while back, and have been saved for this need.  We are hoping to bless 2000 people, so we are sorting through a LOT of clothing!!

Today I posted this on Facebook.

I've been asking Ghanaians about their favorite Christmas gift. What is your favorite Christmas gift you've ever received and why? Most people tell me they have never received a gift for Christmas. NEVER. RECEIVED. A. GIFT. FOR. CHRISTMAS. The ones who do remember a gift tell me they were so excited to receive a new outfit and a new pair of slippers (flip-flops). Rejoicing over - ONE. NEW. OU
TFIT. ONE GIFT EACH YEAR - not numerous gifts. ONE. The Ghanian's favorite memories are gathering with their family for a special large meal - chicken or goat and rice. (I love that!) They love the day full of dancing, singing, and being with their family. (I love that too!) Today, we sorted through clothing to give out at a four day outreach culminating Christmas morning, December 25th. Hopefully, each person will receive one piece of clothing to take home in this fishing community of 2000 people. This will be their only Christmas gift this year, and probably the only one they have ever received in their lifetime.

Sadly, about 25% of the clothes we went through today were discarded because of stains, tears, etc... They were horrible. I am so very thankful we were able to go through them before handing them over to someone as a blessing. BUT these were clothes sent here FOR the people here. It makes me so sad, but I guess someone thought a Ghanaian would be thankful for a piece of clothing that says, "YOU are worth this! This was my trash, but now you can have it." Stained. Torn. Discard worthy. We even had an entire enormous pile of socks...nearly all without matches. (I was saddened by this too because how many people do you know that would wear one sock without one the matches it? Really? One sock. Come on!!) However, all of the socks were kept because the children will use them for games...most will be turned into a ball to play soccer. Mismatched sock soccer balls. Discard-worthy clothes sent here as a "blessing." My world is being rocked. Is this really the how the people are valued here? Lord, please give us your eyes and your heart for your children.

Please know we are grateful for the generous donations so many give that truly do bless here. Today was simply a hard day that revealed a "leftover" mentality of some for donations for the people here.

"Lord, you know the hope of the helpless. Surely you will hear their cries and comfort them. You will bring justice to the oppressed and the orphans, so mere people can no longer terrify them." Psalm 10:17-18




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When we attended training last year, this poem was read to us, and today I saw it come to be true.




The Foxes Have Holes (And So Do We!)

By:  Mrs. Don Mathis



We're sending you a box of stuff, 

For us it is not good enuff.



But being missionaries, kind;

A use for it we're sure you'll find.



So when you pay the postage due, 

A happy s'prise awaiteth you.



Within this poorly wrapped up box, 

Are three odd garters, holey socks.



A corset, large without the stays, 

A record that no longer plays.



Some buttons for the three odd shoes, 

A box of string too short to use.



A can of ointment for your boils,

Electric toaster, minus coils.



We've scoured our homes from stem to stern

To send you things for which you yearn.



But glad we are to send our gift

To give your spirits upward lift.



Good deeds for us this should suffice
'Til next year's yearly sacrifice.

Today taught me that sometimes people can get caught up in sending "something."  Almost anything as the poem indicates.  Seeing the clothing that some chose to send here saddened me greatly.  The donations shouted a mentality to send things no one could use here...or even want.  (The clothing was so bad that it was to be burned in a fire this afternoon.  This is protocol for getting rid of garbage here.)

What I learned today is that one man's trash is another man's trash too... at least when it comes to stained, tattered clothing.  After filtering through many clothes that never should have been sent, I'm so thankful for those who send their best.  Many of you do!  Thank you!  I'm so thankful for those who think about the people here and realize they live with so much more.  I'm thankful for those who give to be a blessing to others.  WOW!  What a difference your giving makes!  You have no idea!  

Please know we do appreciate the generous donations of clothing, toys, books, etc... so many have sent us.  Nearly all of what we receive truly is a blessing for people here.  Thank you.  Thank you.  Thank you. 


It's been a while since I've let you know a way you could help financially.  Since it's Christmas time, I thought you might like to know how you could bless those in need here.   Our two ministry partners are dedicated to making Christmas one FULL OF BLESSING here.  All done in the name of Jesus.   





Here are two giving options our family will be involved with this Christmas season.  We encourage you to consider helping in any way you are able!





You can donate to the MLI Christmas Outreach.  This four day event will go from December 22 and culminate on Christmas Day, December 25th.  Door-to-door evangelism, film show outreaches with the Jesus Film, games for children, and a Christmas party on December 25th will end the event.  On December 25th, everyone will be fed a warm meal, given at least one piece of clothing, and small gifts will be shared with the children such as balloons and whistles.  You can donate any amount toward this event in Maamie, Ghana hoping to reach 2000+ people.  Please email me if you give to this cause because there is not currently a way to designate your online giving. 





OR





You could sponsor a child for Christmas through Feeding the Orphans.  For $20, you will provide a very special meal, and a new outfit for an orphan here in country.   Christmas is a time when children long for family and belonging.  These celebrations FTO hosts provide joy and hope for children.  Please consider making this Christmas one that the fatherless children will remember for years to come!




People worshipped Jesus upon His birth.  Be in worship of our incredible Savior this season.  
Worship. Awe.  Gratitude.  Praise.  WORSHIP HIM.


And this will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in swaddling cloths and lying in a manger. – Luke 2:12
 
And going into the house they saw the child with Mary his mother, and they fell down and worshiped him. Then, opening their treasures, they offered him gifts, gold and frankincense and myrrh. – Matthew 2:11



Monday, November 26, 2012

Top Ten Positive Changes Since Moving to Ghana


Top Ten Positive Changes Since Moving to Ghana

10.)  I wear skirts almost every day and enjoy dressing with a feminine flair.

9.)  Our family entertainment is virtually always free = playing family games, going to the beach, hiking the nearby mountains, driving a few hours in the car together to run one errand...  We enjoy our family time together more than we ever have.

8.)  Upon meeting new people, I focus on the ways we are similar more than the ways we are different.  Before moving here, I easily became caught up in the differences between myself and others.  Now, my focus is on the similarities.

7.)  The daily pace of life is typically slower so there is more time for conversations, walking to the nearby stores when we need something, and watching sunsets.  No television access has been blissful.  The peace and quiet in our home was uncomfortable at first, but now is relaxing.

6.)  The food we eat is much fresher and healthier.  Reid and I have both lost a lot of weight since our arrival, but we feel better than ever.  

5.)  I’m grateful for the little things I used to take for granted.  Electricity, water, food, health, the ability to read, shelter, a bed, my own Bible...  I will never look at these things in the same way.

4.)  I don’t worry about money and we are holding onto earthly things very loosely.  God grows our faith daily in this area.

3.)  I had a very difficult time coming up with anything I “wanted” for Christmas, because I couldn’t think of a single thing we needed.  

2.)  I’m appreciating qualities in each person in my family that I’ve never noticed before.   My husband and each of our sons all are uniquely gifted for God’s purpose for their lives.  I have found great freedom in living “outside of the box” as a family.  I'm thankful God has created each of us differently.

1.)  I crave time with the Lord, and it is constant.  My relationship with Jesus is deeper than ever before, because I am more dependent on Him than ever before.  Daily, I fall more deeply in love with my Savior.  

I am confident of this, that the one who began a good work among you will bring it to completion by the day of Jesus Christ.
Philippians 1:6

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Family Movie Night

Tonight our family watched old home movies together.  After my surprise at what I was viewing on the screen, I posted a play-by-play on Facebook because I wanted to remember the experience.

Dear Friends, this is life with five boys...

Post #1
Watching old home movies tonight with the boys.These are movies they have taken on their own and ones I had no idea existed. One bonus from tonight was seeing our homecoming with Godwin from the passenger side of the gate. Very cool. AND I have heard Braden sing a song for a Snickers bar, viewed the outside of the car window over and over again on different trips, watched Franklin throw a paper airplane off the deck, viewed the front and side view of about 400 lego creations, seen a florescent light bulb destroyed by a bb gun, watched the boys throw a rock into a lagoon, watched the boys drop a waterproof camera into the water just to see if it would work, I've witnessed what really goes on when the boys wash the car, enjoyed every angle of lego men going to battle AND I have gotten to see the insides of a dead bird. Oh, will I ever understand boys?


Post #2
Now, fifteen minutes after I posted this, I have seen about forty takes of a nerf gun war that begins in a pitch-black closet and then Franklin and Weston shoot each other. And it starts again...Franklin is down...now Weston...now Franklin...now Weston...now what? Oh boys!

Post #3
Oh, lets NOW add the video of...a huge spider, a very loud Burp Fest, Franklin balancing on Godwin's scooter on a rolling log, Franklin standing on the roof of our house and shooting the basketball into the goal on the driveway...again I had no idea these videos existed, a farting fest, a remote control car demolition derby, a video of what the view is with the camera strapped to the top of the remote control car...these were numerous different videos...Godwin working a puzzle but I never saw his face, only his hands putting the pieces in and it was zoomed in, a tornado of water going down our bathtub drain...another great shot with the water proof camera that they proved really works underwater, mouths moving to the twangs of musical instruments, and milk moustache contests!!! It gets better and better!!!

Post #4
Oh good grief! Now I am looking at the numbers on a digital clock AND seeing the amazing glow in the dark qualities of bendaroos as the light goes on..and...off...on...and...off...on...and...off... Wait...now there are dead fish on the screen... World, there are times I do exaggerate, but this is not one of them! Give a boy a video camera and he will surprise you for a lifetime!

Post #5
You know it is time for bed when you are looking only at the top of a speaker cover and hearing the song, "Grandma got run over by a reindeer!!!" Nope, no faces, just the top of the speaker with the song playing in the background... Sigh. I have laughed so much tonight, but oh my! I do not understand boys!!!!



Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands.
Psalm 127:4

(Oh goodness, I am wondering about our precious "arrows???")

Monday, November 19, 2012

Hawking in Ghana

Last Wednesday, one more item was crossed off my "bucket list."

Mason, Franklin and I went "hawking."  What is "hawking" you ask?  It is the selling of wares on the streets.  In Ghana it is very common.  You can buy everything from the convenience of your car window - a cold Coke, toilet paper, batteries, watches, bread, apples, flags, maps, ironing boards, tables, etc...  Many items are toted from car-to-car on the heads of the sellers.

The women in the photo below are selling (in the center) Bowlflute which is similar to a deep fried doughnut, (woman to the left in the off-white shirt) bags of water in which you tear off a corner of the bag with your teeth then suck the liquid out, and (the woman in the brown striped shirt) plantain chips which are delicious by the way.

(This was a google image, we didn't take any photos of our selling.  Sorry.)
Hawking in Ghana

Since coming to Ghana, I've joked about going "hawking."  However, the longer we have lived here, the more I've wondered what it must be like.  Plans were made to go on Wednesday night and Mason and Franklin decided to come along for the experience.  Two of our neighbors also accompanied us, Beth, and her daughter, Maria.

We debated on how to do this and tossed around several ideas -
1.)  Should we buy all of the items from the hawker then give them away?  No.
2.)  Should we pay the hawkers to let us hawk with them?  No.
3.)  Should we buy all of the items from the hawker then sell them ourselves?  No.
4.)  Should we sell something different creating new competition?  No.
5.)  Should we try to partner with a hawker then help them sell their items?  Yes.

And that's what we did.

I partnered with a bread seller.  Balancing a loaf of bread on my head at times, I shouted to buses, cars and trotros (public transportation = overcrowded vans), "BUTTER BREAD! 2 CEDIS 50 PESWAS!  SUGAR BREAD! 3 CEDIS! FRESH BREAD!  BUY IT NOW!"  (For those who know me, well, yes, I did it in my LOUD ROBIN VOICE!)  I even ran beside the trotros trying to sell bread to the crowded passengers inside who could not seem to stop laughing at the sight outside the window.

Mason sold plantain chips.  He sold several bags, but he was not as loud as his mother.  Franklin sold phone credit with our friend Tony.  Franklin also had a successful night selling.  I, however, did not sell anything.  Not one loaf of bread.

My neighbor, Beth, was the master seller of the night.  In the 90 minutes we sold, she parted with 5 bags of plantain chips!  Impressive!

After experiencing this way of selling, I appreciate the business effort of the hawkers.  It is hard work.  My arms hurt from holding the bread.  My eyes stung from the diesel exhaust and red dust being spit upon me.  My feet were tired from running beside vehicles.  Geez, my voice even hurt from yelling over-and-over, "BUTTER BREAD! 2 CEDIS 50 PESWAS!  SUGAR BREAD! 3 CEDIS! FRESH BREAD!  BUY IT NOW!"

Again, most people enjoyed seeing us participate in "hawking." Some laughed.  Some pulled out their cameras and took pictures.  Some Ghanaians joked around with us.  But not everyone.

In Ghana, there are times I can feel the animosity toward the color of our skin.  Daily, it seems, we have police encounters simply because the officers want a bribe.  They pull us over and then try to find a reason to arrest us.  It's tiring and it's frustrating, but it's life for us here.   Our white skin seems to indicate money to some people here.

As cars drove past, there were some people who looked at us with disdain.  Some stares were so fierce it made me uncomfortable.  During the night, twice I was given the hand motion to indicate a sale, so I ran beside the two trotros to make the transaction.  Both times, the person wanted to take the bread for free instead of paying for it.  I suppose both men thought they should not have to pay the purchase price if they were buying from a person with white skin.  Why?  It's very sad.  As the sun set, people were urging us to get off the road for our safety.

Perhaps the people who were offended by our hawking efforts thought we were poking fun at their culture or making this profession into something glamorous.  This is not the case.  We simply wanted to learn what it is like to "hawk."  After all, a majority of the spontaneous purchases we conduct here are done through our car window.

When I see children selling, my heart breaks because I know they should be in school.  Ghana has cracked down on this in recent years so the number participating is fewer, but there are still children out selling everyday.  They should not be.  However, for the adults making a living this way, I am thankful they are willing to work.  These are intelligent men and women who speak multiple languages and can compute difficult math transactions in their heads producing correct change.  Basically, they are running a commission-based business so if they don't sell, they don't make any money.  They start at sunrise and work until after dark.  These people seem to have a strong work ethic.

There are more questions I plan to ask the next time I go "hawking."  How much profit do you make in a day?  What are the best times to sell?  Where do you buy your items?  Etc...  Oh, yes, I will do it again because I have several friends who wanted to go but were unable to do so this time.  (Right Bible Study gals?  Ha!)

We've experienced one great benefit from our evening selling on the street.  Now, when I pass through the place where we partnered with "hawkers," I now know many of the sellers names.  Smiles and waves are given freely to our family every time we pass.  Even though I didn't sell any bread, the new relationships made it worth it!

The next time you are walking down the bread aisle at the grocery store, just picture me with a loaf of bread on my head yelling, "BUTTER BREAD! 2 CEDIS 50 PESWAS!  SUGAR BREAD! 3 CEDIS! FRESH BREAD!  BUY IT NOW!"


She is a hard worker, strong and industrious.
She knows the value of everything she makes, and works late into the night.
Proverbs 31:17-18

Friday, November 16, 2012

It's the Simple Things

Sometimes it is the simple things that make me smile.  Yesterday was a day full of simple things.

The day after Katie left to return to the states, we moved a young single mother and her son in with us.  The mother's name is Etornam and she is a vibrant woman who yearns for nothing more than to care for her 11 month old son, Elyon.  Our family has quickly attached with them both and we love having a young chattering child crawling around the house.

 After watching the David Platt / Francis Chan "Multiply" simulcast Friday night, I've been reminded to take discipleship seriously.   Since Etornam moved in, she and I have been doing a daily Bible Study on our identity in Christ. My time in God's Word with Etornam, and another orphaned young woman, Naomi, is a highlight of my day.  Right now, Etornam and Naomi are people God has placed in front of me to intentionally disciple.  In my weakness, I am trying.

Our family is trying to help Etornam make a fresh start for herself and her young son.  We are trying to help Etornam establish herself as a seamstress to pursue her trade of sewing.  We are working through Feeding the Orphans to give her and her son a new beginning.  Etornam has no parents.  No grandparents.  No husband.  However, Etornam is blessed to have an elderly man in her family who will speak on her behalf.  This wise elderly man visited our home yesterday.  We are thankful for his role as family leader.



However, it's hitting me that orphaned children eventually become adults.  They continue through life without a parental figure unless they pursue relationship with an older person or unless the Lord brings the two together.  By God's orchestration, Etornam is now in our life.  We are thankful and submit to God's leading for whatever our role in her life may look like in this season.  We say, "Yes, Lord."

Yesterday was Elyon's first birthday.  And, of course in the Beebe house, we celebrate!

Yesterday, I helped Etornam learn to bake a cake from scratch.  Although cake mixes can be found here in Ghana, they are extremely expensive. (Like $9 for a box of mix and $14 for the frosting!)  So, we used what we had and made a cake with basic ingredients...flour, sugar, butter, etc...

Etornam had never used an oven.  She said she had always seen cakes but never knew how they were made.   Today she leaned and she giggled the entire time!

Our only obstacle was finding our flour infested with bugs.  When we moved here, some missionary friends told us that one day we would be sifting the bugs out of our flour and eating it.  I can honestly say that, yes, the day has come.  We spent the first 20 minutes of our "cake-baking lesson" sifting bugs out of the flour.  (Oh goodness, I am sharing this on the blog!  What am I thinking?  Friends, don't judge me.  I did eat the cake and it was delicious and I am still alive today.  Praise God!  No, I did not tell our boys about sifting out the bugs until they had eaten the cake.  Yes, they are all still alive today too.)


After baking the cake, Etornam decorated it.  We even shared some of our special candy from home - Skittles - to decorate the edge.  Here's the finished cake - baked and decorated by Etornam.  I love that the first cake she ever baked in the 28 years of her life was for her son's birthday!  Precious!
Last night we had a birthday celebration for Elyon.  It was just our family and a few friends.  We played simple games and Elyon's day was filled with fun!  Again, it's the simple things...

BLOWING BUBBLES








 SPECIAL BIRTHDAY MESSAGES




A GAME OF "PIN GHANA ON AFRICA"
(THANK YOU, FRANKLIN, FOR THE HOMEMADE GAME BOARD!)



BLOWING OUT THE BIRTHDAY CANDLE!


CUTTING THE CAKE WITH FAMILY - A GHANA TRADITION!
(Our power was out by this time, of course, and we were all drenched with sweat because it was very, very hot in the house.  Without fans, the temperature rises quickly.  Our home was at least 90 degrees.  Just wanted you to know why my neck is glistening in the photo...Whew!  Also, you will see Naomi in this picture in the teal shirt.  Reid should be in the photo, but he's holding the camera!  Thank you, Honey, of taking the picture!)




A WATER BALLOON TOSS IN THE DARK - SORRY NO PICTURES - 
BUT LOTS OF WETNESS!  GHANA TRADITION!

TIME WITH FRIENDS CELEBRATING ELYON!  WHAT A BLESSING!


I'm quickly realizing how fast we accept people into our family here.  If people are with us, relationally, they become like one of the family.  Whether it is a volunteer, like Katie, who lives with us for a few months...

Or friends who travel into country and stay with us for a few weeks...


Or missionaries serving here in country...





Or a young orphaned single mother who comes to stay with us until we can find a place for her to live,
I'm thankful for God's family.

Mother, Father, Son, Daughter, Sister, Brother - we truly are all one family within the body of Believers.  

Without trying to complicate things by defining relationships, it makes me happy to see Etornam with us.  Reid and I are not old enough to be her parents, but in some ways, as she navigates some life decisions, we are standing in the gap for her in a parenting role.  It's a blessing and an honor.  



As I hear more people call me, "Mom," I'm thankful.  When I think of how God brought Mathiang into our lives as a son, I'm overwhelmed.  He entered our life calling me "Mom" too.  Reid, "Dad."  Sometimes, I've even wondered if that is my role in ministry here in Ghana?  Just to be a mother figure to others.  A Mom.  Who knows?  Even as I type this, it sounds small.  In the world's eyes, at times, it even seems small.  "Mom."  Right now, it seems complicated to me to define a ministry "role" for myself.  I'm praying through this, and have been for several weeks.  For now, I'm trying to take the people God places in front of me as assignments from Him and forget trying to "define" too much.  It's humbling.  


What I do know is that I'm thankful for what I see God doing around me.  He's making our family larger.  He's adding people to our lives who love us and for us to love.  What a gift!  I'm thankful!

As of today, we have lived in Ghana for 156 days.  (I can't believe it!)  We have lived in our home for 149 days.  In the days we have lived in our home, we have had overnight guests 90 evenings!  This includes Katie and Etornam living with us, but even as I type the number, I am amazed that our house is continually full!  Out of the 149 days we have lived in our home, 90 days have been filled with others as part of our family.  90!  I love that!   Sometimes there are numerous folks here all at the same time.  Last Friday night, for the Multiply simulcast, we had 16 people sleeping in our house besides our own family = 24 people total!  Crazy good!  The Brownings stay with us overlapped with Katie's departure and Etornam moving in.  Friends from GMI sometimes have spent several days with us.  If outreaches go late into the night, men who work with Reid at MLI spend the night.  Oh, God is good!

As God grows our family, I see more of Him reflected.




It really is the simple things that bring me joy.  

Happy Birthday Elyon!
May God bless you abundantly, and may you grow into a man who follows hard after God!


Behold, children are a gift from the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Psalm 127:3